Our autism journey
The art of learning is in rare form today. Teaching Owen to do something can take repetitive actions, words, steps, and even sometimes months of doing these same things. The connections for Owen are not always there. He will watch how his hands move, he stares at his feet, and he will jump around looking at how his body reacts. His body is in a constant state of motion and needs a lot of input to keep it calm. I am always trying to find ways to help his body regulate. For the last week I have been trying a technique that I did when he was younger, but I didn’t understand the significance of how this helped him or if it did. I hold him in my arms like I would a baby and swing him back and forth. I do this in reps of ten and he will keep coming back to me as he needs them. Generally it is about five to ten sets and the immediate difference for him is amazing. It’s like it resets his calm. The upside for me is I’m getting a lot of exercise from swinging a thirty-two pound Owen around. It’s hard to remember and even try to take care of myself when I put so much focus into Owen, add in the daily stress, plus health issues, and all I want to do is sit, but the more I can do for myself the more I can help Owen. It’s a hard lesson to learn and an even harder one to put, and keep, into action. The new regimen is also helping Owen sleep better. Almost every night for a week now he has slept until at least four and then gone back to sleep once he gets into bed with me. This is so much better than it was. One of the nights I realized I hadn’t even given him his melatonin and he slept great. He asked “wanna go to bed”, put his tablet down, walked to his room, got in bed, and was asleep within five minutes. I realized Owen knows more about his body than he can express. I’m trying to learn the cues he gives me and together we will get this. Growing Owen is what we are doing. Take one day at a time. Remember to not be hard on yourself and make today matter. Smiles to all and donut daze!